5 Surprising Ways You Are Sabotaging Your Own Success
We all want to be success. We work hard to achieve what we want or live the way we dream of. But sometimes success seems too far no matter how hard we work. This can cause frustrations and disappointments. You work hard, meet your deadlines, do best at what you do but there is no sign of promotion.
Success has always been right in front of you, just waiting to be taken. You have just been sabotaging yourself to stop you from getting there. Here are five ways that you are sabotaging your success and probably don’t know it.
- Being Pessimistic
In order to thrive and achieve success you need to develop an optimistic behavior and surround yourself with positive thoughts. Being negative and pessimistic will lead you to complain about things like you think the new project is waste of time, or your co-workers are given better tasks than you and so forth. Complaining about taking extra work, longer hours is not going to do much for you. Instead look at it in a positive way and work with your boss how you can make the new responsibilities fit your schedule. Also take on the new tasks or workload and give your best without judging the value of that task. Seeing your diligence and your positive reaction your boss will start to believe that you are someone who really cares about her success and growth. And that can lead to new opportunities or raise coming your way.
- Being Inflexible to Changes
Flexibility is a key element that most employers look for in their employees. You need to allow yourself to deal with change and uncertainty positively. Be open- minded and instead of neglecting new ideas and changes, accept them. Practice and experience along the way will help you get used to those changes. In order to enjoy your work you have to live in the moment and consider what’s happening around you in real-time. You new duties at work may not be turning out the way you expected and that is okay. Simply embrace it, be flexible and give your best. The point here is to remain open, flexible and adaptive throughout the entire change process. Enhance your experience with opportunities that come your way and seize the chance to move in multiple directions.
- It’s Not Enough
No matter how high you climb there’s never enough. You keep striving for more opportunities, more money, and more fame, more of everything. This leads to ignoring what you have already achieved; you don’t see all the accomplishments you have made. That’s simply because you think you don’t have enough. You think you have to be at a certain point before you really are successful. Then you that point and again you think it’s not enough and you need to be at a higher point and it keeps going on going. Unless you allow yourself to enjoy where you are and be proud of yourself you will always find your success incomplete and not enough.
- Lack of Socializing
Avoiding work events is one way where you are not socializing enough with your co-workers. Having casual conversations is also another way to get to know your co-workers and they will get to know you. This type of socializing can expose a mutual interest or passion. Talking to managers in other departments and letting them know more about you could open doors to new job openings or new projects and promotion. Along with that socialization will allow you to share updates on projects, gives exposure to different perspectives on changes in policies, plus it encourages teamwork and builds alliances.
- Engaging in Negative Gossips
Negative gossip can create productivity issues for you. It can impact your goals and dreams. It can lead to distrust – where your co-workers are unable to trust you and which can tarnish your reputation. You need to understand the impact of your behavior and the consequences of what will happen if your bad behavior continues – it could lead to demotion, loss of job, etc. Avoid people who gossip and be up front about it. Let those people know that you don’t want to be part of any negative gossips and that if they have issues they should talk to the management. Plus focus on open and honest communication.