6 Golden Ways to Get Your Child to LISTEN!
Having a constructive talk with your child and having them listen attentively is sometimes challenging. Kids always have a lot going on in their minds; they have different priorities – finishing the next game level, seeing their friends at soccer field, going shopping with grandparents and so forth. They get engaged in their own exciting world. The style we use to communicate is very important.
Our behavior, the way we talk and address things has a huge impact on their learning and ability to listen to us. Our behavior and communication towards them shows how we want them to behave and communicate with others. Make conversation with your kids a priority.Here are few ways you can have your child listen to you while you are talking.
- Get your child’s attention. It’s important to have your child’s attention before you start speaking. Get close to your child and get down to their level and start slowly in a normal voice instead of shouting. Praise them with what they were doing like “what a beautiful painting! Great job!” Make sure they are in a good mood. Wait till your child is ready to have a talk.
- Keep it simple. Don’t try to confuse the child with using complicated words and twisting things around. Use simple words and explain it in a way that your child is comfortable with. No one knows your child better than you. Don’t relay too much information at once. That will get them bored and disengaged.
- Keep it interesting. Of course listening to one side can be boring. Keep a two-way dialogue. Ask your child questions or find out their opinion about things you are talking or suggesting. Provide clear explanations and help them get the point you are trying to deliver.
- Use positive language. According to studies, words like “don’t”, “never”, “no” are examples of negativity. Use words that are positive – example; instead of saying “Don’t throw things toys” you can say “Put the toys away instead of throwing. Throwing will break them.” By doing this not only are you able to address the issue positively but you are also using positive language.
- Listen to your child. If you expect your child to listen to you then you need to listen to them. You need to give them a chance to talk and explain. Remember you are role modeling how communication is handled in your house. Make your child feel important too.
- Watch for understanding. If you notice that you child is not responding to your requests or unable to follow your instructions then maybe another method of talking and explaining should be used. Ask them questions and see if they comprehend what you are trying to convey. Find out what techniques will help them open up and ask questions when they are unable to understand.